There is No Game Based on Truth

By Nadia Khalil Bradley

What does it mean to lie to life? Why is it the most dangerous thing we can do to our souls? Why are we disappointed when we lie and then share that lie with others, ironically, to make it more true? We think we are relieving ourselves by lying and yet, the lie turns on us. It turns on everyone involved. We lie to fill our needs of attention, honor and integrity – whether it is real or perceived. We lie the most when our self worth is compromised; when our self worth is beat up so much that it can’t stop us from lying.

So why do we lie?

We lie as a way to buffer ourselves from life. We lie in order to hold everything in place while we come to terms with ourselves. We lie in order to see what happens to us when we do not take care of ourselves. We lie to buy time; to see how it feels when we get away with something; to see how it is when another person believes us; to be better than we think we are; to say that we are important (because in reality we think we are not); to mask our fear of believing the truth; and most of all, we lie because we do not have enough faith in ourselves or in life to tell the truth.

Lying is the opposite of telling the truth. Telling the truth rests us and lying brings about chaos in our hearts. Lying is so cheap that we can’t even remember the lies we told; however, everyone else does. People remember the lies we’ve told word for word and we are reminded of it when the truth finally comes out – and it always does.

NO ONE WANTS TO LIE. The liar themselves sets things up in order to get caught. Why?

When we lie we lose faith in ourselves and in others: with us for telling the lie and with others for believing us. When we lie and someone believes us, we feel sad inside that another human being believes something that is not true. We then feel that they weren’t really paying attention to us. Even if their gut reaction was that we were lying, they still believe us. That’s when they respect for themselves and for us. This is all happens before judgment hits the conscious level and we even have a moment to think about it.

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