How to Attract, Create and Live with Lasting Love
By Joyce Jackson
As I get calls from clients, I see many of them are about love, or more specifically, lack of love. The relationship they have dreamed of is still not there or out of reach. “When will I find someone?” is asked as much as, “Is he coming back?” or, “Will he change?”
It does not matter which question is asked as much as they are asked with a focus a on the other individual, the partner and what they are thinking, doing and feeling. Relationships are difficult and romance elusive unless we take charge of our own love life.
You can take charge and attract and create the loving relationship complete with romance if you do a few things. I find there are three things to do in order to bring these into your life quickly, easily. First, get clear. Get clear on who and what you want. “I want love,” is not clear. “I want a relationship,” is not clear. Who, what, when where and how in detail is how to get clarity for yourself and make things happen. Use these three areas to get the answers and clarity you need to bring true love and romance into your life.
1. It’s About You
It’s not about them. The type of relationship you have or don’t have right now, is only about you. All relationships, all attracting, starts with you, focusing on yourself and your great qualities. Attract someone to you by putting out there how fabulous you are. Take a piece of paper and list your great qualities and what you can offer someone.
Always remember who you are and what can you bring to the table for a relationship. This is not narcissism. This approach is an esteem booster that will actually make you more solid and attractive to your ideal mate. It enables you to become a magnet for someone, not the hunter looking for game.
2. What do you really want?
Time to pull out another piece of paper. Write it down. Think it through. Do not ever leave this to chance! Many times we simply focus on a body, on having a warm body, “someone” to be with. Then, when they show up with all their faults and shortcomings, we are aghast at how they treat us. Their negative behavior belies the fact that you did not do your homework and that you are in the hunt for anyone that will show up.
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