The Power of the PAUSE

By Vedam Clementi

As a Life Coach, an outsider looking in, AND looking back at my own past situations, two of the worst repetitive patterns that I had and see people have, are taking things personally, and claiming the situation as being ‘serious.’ Sure, things happen, situations occur, misunderstandings take place, people say and react in the moment, etc, but taking things personally and seriously intensifies an already uneasy situation! So this leads me to a question; “WHO does the situation happen to, WHO is also reacting, WHO also has chosen to engage? And the question of ‘WHO’ could go on.

There is only one answer to these questions. It is the ego, it is the mind, it is just a fragment of the ego that is getting something it does not want, it is the conditioned self, it is the ‘victim’ in the story, it is the FALSE SELF. Are you going to sustain and maintain the existence of the false self, or are you going to remember who and what you are in truth?

From a coaching perspective, there are so many different points I would remind you to remember, including:

1) honor your feelings and be authentic

2) remember everything is temporary, so give it time and let it pass

3) stop adding sustaining chapters to the story of your victimhood, etc.

There is, however, one main point that I would emphasize. I would focus attention on helping you remember the truth of who and what you are, especially during a difficult situation.

Usually, as a Life Coach I hear about these types of situations after they have occurred; we talk about it after the fact. I remind them that nothing can be done to turn back time; therefore, we can talk about the next time something like this happens (and it surely, eventually will!). I remind them that situations are going to occur that you are not going to like or enjoy, but there are things that you can do and be to make it as easy as possible while you are going through it.

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