How to Motivate Yourself Without Guilt

By Maria Khalife

Although the most acute judges of the witches and even the witches themselves, were convinced of the guilt of witchery, the guilt nevertheless was non-existent. It is thus with all guilt.~ Friedrich Nietzsche

Have you found yourself motivated by guilt for skipping chores because you chose to go out with your friends? Or do you use the opposite extreme by making sure that no one can fault you for anything because you cannot bear being in any situation where you might be seen as less than. Either of these is driven by guilt, so let’s take a look at how this negative motivation can drive you and how you can motivate yourself without guilt attached to it.

What’s in your past that pushes at you via Guilt?

Jamshid loved the days of courtship in his youth, but the actual events were tainted by his memories of his mother, who had sat in harsh judgment of all his friends during his growing up years. He became convinced that no one would measure up to her unreasonable standards. He felt compelled to introduce the women that he felt strongest about, but he approached the event with cold blood and a twisted stomach. He could not bear the idea that, once again, he’d be disappointing her and he became overcome with guilt as his inability.

After a respite, Guilt always pops up again

Jamshid would recover from these introductions, eventually drop the girl who “wasn’t really good enough,” and begin to date another. His lingering guilt would send him home to mom to do chores around the house for her, and to take her out to a play or dinner. This appeased his guilt and let him feel good for a while.

Guilt is a motivator because for those things you’ve done “wrong,” you can always do more good things to make up for it. You’ll feel good about those constructive things, but then guilt will raise its ugly head once again.

Can you sustain never having a sense of Peace?

Guilt because of his mother’s harsh judgments is what motivated Jamshid. He felt guilty every time he found a new woman, because his mother’s voice was inside his head talking harsh judgments all the time, and he knew the day would come when he’d have to face her head on…and he knew the result of that would be negative, too.

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