The “It’s Too Late For Me” Syndrome
By John Holland
I’m sure that you all know people who’ve reached a certain age, who are stuck in a mind-set that they’ll remain single for the rest of their lives, yes? All too often, you’ll hear them say “It’s too late, I’m not going to meet anyone now.” The same goes for people who feel that promotion has passed them by and now it’s too late.
This is just another form of being held ransom by your psychological fear. It’s never too late. I love the quote by George Eliot: “It’s never too late to be what you might have been.” A client recently told me a story of her aunt, who at the age of 70 went back to college to get a degree in English. Was it too late for her? She clearly didn’t think so. I also just watched a television show featuring a happy, lively 82 year-old man windsurfing on the ocean alongside all the twenty-something surfer dudes. Apparently, he didn’t believe he was too old for anything!
When you make such excuses, you block positive people and situations from manifesting themselves in your life. These people and situations could bring you unlimited amounts of spirit energy, passion, and joy to your soul. The soul is ageless. It’s eternal. That’s why so many people say: “I really don’t feel that old.”
In reality, it’s your physical body that will age – not your soul. By tapping in to your soul and the power of your spirit that flows through it, you can feel youthful as it brings you energy and vitality to your physical body when you need it most. It comes down to how you approach life as well as how you’re taking care of yourself. If you really believe that you’re too old, and then you know what happens, you just get older. I’ve known many people who don’t give in to the whole notion of what you can or can’t do at any age in your life. Its societal conditioning that dictates how we should act at a certain age. My first admin assistant has a very young minded 84-year-old mother, who has a boyfriend, still drives her car, and volunteers once a week at a homeless shelter. I’ve seen people in their thirties act older than her mom. I hope that I’m that young at heart when I’m in my eighties!